Postpartum recovery is not PRETTY – Do not read this if you are squeamish
Do not read this if you are easily disgusted, or if you are going to comment here and tell me how gross it is that I wrote about this stuff, or that I have no filter. (I won’t publish those comments anyway, and I already know I have no filter.) New momma’s NEED to be prepared for postpartum recovery, and they NEED the details.
Do not read this if you are a dude, unless you are married to a very pregnant lady and want to be supportive.
But DO read this if you are pregnant, (maybe especially if you are pregnant for the first time).
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And, if this is you (pregnant for the first time), please know that I’m not writing this stuff to scare you. I’m a high anxiety personality – I scare VERY easily – and that is NOT my intention with this post. But I’m gonna lay it all out there for you, because sometimes we girls gotta do these things for each other.
So let me just remind you before we start – it gets better. What ever ends up going in with your body postpartum… make this your motto: This Too Shall Pass!
I read all the articles I could find online about what to expect in regards to postpartum recovery, and none of them mentioned these things (well, except for the blood and the crying – and yet I was still shocked by those). Not all things happen to all people, but some things happen to some people, and it’s good to be prepared for these things regarding postpartum recovery if you can.
(I had an uncomplicated, run-of-the-mill vaginal birth, and I’m sure that in other circumstances there would have been even more things to shock me.)
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9 things I was totally unprepared for about postpartum recovery
OK, this one I did read about this in other posts, but they didn’t make it clear how messy it is. For the first day (or maybe two or three) you’ll stand in the shower (if you can stand) with blood running down the drain. You’ll try to sit down to pee and discover that in the time it takes to get your giant underwear up / down the blood might make it all the way to your socks.
They’ll give you nice white towels in the hospital (because you can bleach the heck out of white and make it white again). Don’t assume it’s possible to get dry without making the towels gross. And don’t wear your favorite socks. (And once you get home, don’t leave your nice bath mat in front of the toilet. I had to buy a new bath mat.)
The general feeling of my lady bits.
I expected pain. (And, you might be pleased to know that the pain wasn’t quite as bad as I expected it to be.) I did NOT expect that when I stood up for more than a minute it would feel like everything was going to… fall out. An intense and uncomfortable downward pressure. Sort of like the baby’s head was still there (not the burning feeling, just the pressure.)
And this lasted for over a week. (I’ve heard great things about this pain relief spray– I didn’t manage to get any ordered in time – squishy babe came a few weeks early!)
The general feeling of my other bits.
It felt like there was a golf ball lodged between my bum cheeks for days. ( I did use this magical cream for hemorrhoids. Why isn’t EVERYONE talking about this stuff?)
The first poop.
I had heard about the first poop being scary and painful– that wasn’t unexpected. I had not ever heard about the first poop being uncontrollable. Yes, I pooped myself postpartum. Three times, in fact.
(FYI – this probably won’t happen to you. After much googling and discussion with my dr, it is NOT a common occurrence. But sometimes, that muscle can be damaged or shocked for a while.)
How much it hurt to pee.
I had also read about this in other posts, but again, not prepared for the intensity. Everything I read said the peri-bottle would make it easier. I hated that freaking peri bottle. It did NOT help. NOTHING helped. I even tried sitting in a bath tub with water covering my lady bits and peeing in the tub. THAT didn’t help.
To be fair, it wasn’t so bad for the first four days, and then we spent a day sitting on a hard ER bed with our five day old baby. That seemed to be the last straw for my down theres.
I did find out eventually How to Pee Postpartum Without Crying.
You are covered in blood and leaking all manor of things, and you can’t use soap. (Even if you could use soap, I bet you’d have to be sadistic to want to.)
After the first few days I started taking postpartum sitz baths (in a bath tub of 3 inches of very warm water, epsom salts and lavender essential oil twice a day for at 20 minutes). This was great for the pain and it really helped to keep things a little less… icky.
I am an emotional person – I get the tears sometimes – but I am not a big “ugly cry-er”. I cried maybe 6 times my whole pregnancy… that’s a lot for me, but pregnancy is hard.
Turns out postpartum is also hard. I probably cried 6 times in the 24 hours following delivery. And 6 times in the next 24 hours. And it did not stop there.
I cried on and off for about a month.
How scary it is to have a baby.
No, not to push a baby out. To have a baby, here in the world that you can’t control. From the moment that baby leaves your body, there’s only so much you can do to protect him and that is scary. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s not normal to be exhausted but still not sleeping because you need to watch him breathing.
I don’t think there is anyway to prepare yourself for this… but it’s normal.
All these things are normal.
(With the exception of the pooping. Thank goodness.)
FYI, peeing yourself postpartum – even after you’ve healed – is TOTALLY normal, unfortunately, and it signals weak pelvic floor muscles. You’ll want to heal and strengthen your entire pelvic floor. (Also same if you feel like your tummy will NEVER shrink back down. it’s all core + pelvic floor!)
Holding a baby for 9 months straight is HARD work. The Postpartum Cure is a SUPER AFFORDABLE eating and workout plan for healing and strengthening your pelvic floor and getting rid of the mommy tummy WITHOUT causing further damage.
It includes meal plans, grocery lists, explanations of how to heal and strengthen the pelvic floor, and best of all, it will help you get your body back! Check out The Postpartum Cure here.
There is no REAL way to totally prepare for the postpartum recovery period, but if I could tell you any one thing and have you take it to heart it’s this – it wasn’t as bad as I expected it to be.
With the exception of the pooping. THAT really was awful.
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