It’s something that you really can’t comprehend until you’ve done it. And even then, when you’ve done it, postpartum still seems like a hazy + baffling time.
The postpartum experience is shocking, to say the least.
When I first became a new stay-at-home mom, I imagined a relaxing vacation every day.
Sure, my baby would need me, but I would have plenty of time to exercise, pursue hobbies, and unwind while she took long, regular naps.
Instead, I felt overwhelmed and depressed, lost my identity, and struggled to take regular showers for the first 4-5 months.
I’d had YEARS to research and prepare for mommyhood, so I knew I wanted to breastfeed to give my child to give him the best possible start in life. In the hospital, the nurses taught Alexander and I how to breastfeed.Alas, he was a pretty sleepy little guy and I wasn’t making much colostrum (pre-milk). Add to this the fact that my milk came in late on day 5, and Alexander had had enough of breastfeeding within a week. He’d cry, fuss, and shake his head when we tried to nurse.
There are probably about 176 things on your to do list, and you’re probably too tired / sick / overwhelmed to tackle most of them.
(At least I was.)
I mean – as you’re approaching “Baby Time” you need to get stuff done – wrap things up at work, decorate the baby room, choose names, make freezer meals,
Breastfeeding is hard, and anything that can make it easier is essential information. These are the best breastfeeding tips I found from across the internet land when I started on the Great and Scary (but Wonderful) Breastfeeding Journey.
I've written about it before, about how tired I am, and why co-sleep even tho we said we'd NEVER. I've shared a compilation of the flat out best baby sleep tips out there. There is just a whole lot that can be said about baby sleep.
And none of it actually makes those wide awake 3 am hours (and hours and hours) any easier.
One item that is always on my to-do list is to conquer the clutter in our home. With two small children who have lots of energy and two adults who have full-time jobs outside the home, this is no easy task. And this can be especially challenging around the holidays when shiny new toys are constantly making their way into your playroom and children’s rooms.
If you've read many finance books or blogs, you've probably heard that in most relationships, there is just one person who is largely in charge of the finances. It's a generalization, but one that hits the nail on the head with my husband and me. We make all our major money decisions together - house, car, investments, insurance... anything that costs more than a couple hundred bucks really. But I, almost unilaterally, do all the spending.
You’re a busy mother.
But you probably also have goals that you really want to achieve. Maybe one that excites you and gives you something that is yours – outside of your role as a mother.
You’ve got kids who need you 24/7. A husband. A job. The housework needs doing. Babysitters are hard to come by and you’re barely sleeping as it is.
Never waking up again at 6 am to commute, never again worrying more about someone else’s bottom line, never missing another one of your baby’s firsts… never (ever) smiling like you mean it (but really, really, not meaning it) – when you’d rather just flat out punch the guy in the throat? (I worked in customer service. Can you tell?)
I’d be willing to bet you’ve thought about it.
Now, let’s not pretend that I have been on top of things these past few (or 6) months. I’ve already admitted to you guys that I, queen of credit-cards-are-your-best-friends-if-you-use-them-right, have been dropping balls all over the place. I got my husbands Worker’s Comp Insurance cut off because I forgot to pay the bill, we got fined by the CRA because I forgot to file sales tax, and yes, I paid interest on a credit card…twice. I am blaming this on pregnancy and baby brain, and not admitting any fault at all, thankyouverymuch.
If you’re new here (HI! Welcome!) you might not know the story of how this blog came to be. The short version: I had always wanted to work from home, but never quite figured out how. I’d tried lots of different things over the years – photography, travel counselling, making and selling decorative signs, but none of those things were for me.
~ I'm on a new adventure with the Squishy Baby, figuring out this mommy thing one day at a time. Raising little people while keeping our homes and finances under control might be a challenge, but it's one I'm excited to tackle... and I want to encourage you to tackle it too.
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