It’s something that you really can’t comprehend until you’ve done it. And even then, when you’ve done it, postpartum still seems like a hazy + baffling time.
The postpartum experience is shocking, to say the least.
When I first became a new stay-at-home mom, I imagined a relaxing vacation every day.
Sure, my baby would need me, but I would have plenty of time to exercise, pursue hobbies, and unwind while she took long, regular naps.
Instead, I felt overwhelmed and depressed, lost my identity, and struggled to take regular showers for the first 4-5 months.
I’d had YEARS to research and prepare for mommyhood, so I knew I wanted to breastfeed to give my child to give him the best possible start in life. In the hospital, the nurses taught Alexander and I how to breastfeed.Alas, he was a pretty sleepy little guy and I wasn’t making much colostrum (pre-milk). Add to this the fact that my milk came in late on day 5, and Alexander had had enough of breastfeeding within a week. He’d cry, fuss, and shake his head when we tried to nurse.
There are probably about 176 things on your to do list, and you’re probably too tired / sick / overwhelmed to tackle most of them.
(At least I was.)
I mean – as you’re approaching “Baby Time” you need to get stuff done – wrap things up at work, decorate the baby room, choose names, make freezer meals,
Breastfeeding is hard, and anything that can make it easier is essential information. These are the best breastfeeding tips I found from across the internet land when I started on the Great and Scary (but Wonderful) Breastfeeding Journey.
I have seven kids.
That means six different times I’ve brought a baby home from the hospital and have had to go through the transition of the “baby” no longer being the “baby.” Not once have I ever had a problem with the newly displaced “baby” have a “new blessing” take over his spot. As in never.
Let's admit that Christmas is AWESOME, but DANGEROUS. Saving money at Christmas just goes out the window, doesn't it? I don't think there's another time of year where it's just so easy to completely blow your budget without even thinking about it. Everywhere you look at Christmas there is money to be spent.
If you've read many finance books or blogs, you've probably heard that in most relationships, there is just one person who is largely in charge of the finances. It's a generalization, but one that hits the nail on the head with my husband and me. We make all our major money decisions together - house, car, investments, insurance... anything that costs more than a couple hundred bucks really. But I, almost unilaterally, do all the spending.
Never waking up again at 6 am to commute, never again worrying more about someone else’s bottom line, never missing another one of your baby’s firsts… never (ever) smiling like you mean it (but really, really, not meaning it) – when you’d rather just flat out punch the guy in the throat? (I worked in customer service. Can you tell?)
I’d be willing to bet you’ve thought about it.
Now, let’s not pretend that I have been on top of things these past few (or 6) months. I’ve already admitted to you guys that I, queen of credit-cards-are-your-best-friends-if-you-use-them-right, have been dropping balls all over the place. I got my husbands Worker’s Comp Insurance cut off because I forgot to pay the bill, we got fined by the CRA because I forgot to file sales tax, and yes, I paid interest on a credit card…twice. I am blaming this on pregnancy and baby brain, and not admitting any fault at all, thankyouverymuch.
If you’re new here (HI! Welcome!) you might not know the story of how this blog came to be. The short version: I had always wanted to work from home, but never quite figured out how. I’d tried lots of different things over the years – photography, travel counselling, making and selling decorative signs, but none of those things were for me.
Have you tried to work from home and found it … hard / confusing / not possible? We might all dream of the “be your own boss” lifestyle, but I gotta admit – there’s a certain ease to clocking in and clocking out. When you’re your own boss, there’s a little more to it than that.
~ I'm on a new adventure with the Squishy Baby, figuring out this mommy thing one day at a time. Raising little people while keeping our homes and finances under control might be a challenge, but it's one I'm excited to tackle... and I want to encourage you to tackle it too.
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