The BEST Postpartum Advice, from moms who’ve been there (and done that)

My first postpartum experience sorta threw me for a loop.

It’s something that you really can’t comprehend until you’ve done it. And even then, when you’ve done it, the postpartum recovery period still seems like a hazy + baffling time.

And shocking. 

The postpartum experience is shocking, to say the least.

There’s love (so much love!) + joy + crying + blood + tired + crying. There’s hormones, there’s aches and pains, and there’s scary moments. There’s even postpartum hair loss (who knew?!). You are looking for a new normal, and that normal can be hard to find.

A few of my postpartum posts have become really popular lately, and that just tells me that there isn’t enough good postpartum advice out there for new mommas.

I’ve asked some incredible women to  shared their BEST postpartum advice with us, so we can ALL be a little more prepared for the upcoming postpartum experience.

(THIS POST PROBABLY CONTAINS AFFILIATE LINKS. OUR FULL DISCLOSURE POLICY IS REALLY BORING, BUT YOU CAN FIND IT HERE.)

Since I’ve done this all of one times, I want to throw in my best 2 cents here as well.

I really wish I had just chilled the heck out a bit. Listened to my mom more, and not allowed all the fear mongering that goes on in the world to get to me.

Everywhere you turn there’s some friendly “warning” about all the terrible things that are going to happen to you or to your baby, and while it’s fine to be aware that there are real risks + know how to avoid them, it’s not healthy to obsess about these things. (And, actually, it’s about the best way I know to zap the joy out of having an amazing new human to love.)

Also, just practically, if you are recently postpartum or about to be postpartum, I share more of my best postpartum advice in these other posts:

How to Pee Postpartum (without crying)
How to Take an Effective Postpartum Sitz Bath
Things Totally Shocked Me About Postpartum Recovery
How to Heal FASTER After Vaginal Delivery

The BEST postpartum advice, from moms who’ve been there + done that:

UPDATE: I have had another baby, and taken my own advice. I DID chill the heck out, and I had a MUCH better postpartum experience. Read here – How to Enjoy the First Week With a Newborn.

Obviously, having experienced it before I was better prepared this time – this advice will help you get prepared too!

Do some planning for how your home will run ahead of time:

“Having done this 8 times, my best piece of advice is to decide on only 3 household tasks that must get done each week, 3 household tasks that could get done each week, and 3 household tasks that you will let slide each week. The best part of this is that well meaning family members and friends who want to help know exactly what to do to help.” – Jennifer, from  The Intentional Mom

“A simple but overlooked way to take care of yourself is to use paper plates for at least the first month, if not longer – it’ll make your life easier and save your energy by eliminating the need to do dishes. Want to be eco-friendly? Choose biodegradable ones.” – Andrea, from Simplifying Mom Life

Prepare lots of freezer meals ahead of time. It makes recovery so much easier when you aren’t having to worry about what’s for dinner.” – Laura, from Mom Envy

” Everything is always 100 times worse when you don’t sleep. Sleep whenever you can! Have friends over to help prep some meals and store in individual containers before baby comes. Or start stashing a serving of dinner every night in the freezer so you have a lot of easy meal options when baby comes.” – Jennifer, from Figuring Out 30

“Finger food! Prepare plenty of food that you can eat without utensils, and if others offer to cook for you ask for finger food! My mom cooked me a ton of my favorite (but messy) chicken recipe when my LO was born but I had such a hard time eating it bc the baby felt the need to be held All. The. Time! Don’t worry about being above French fries and chicken nuggets!” – Amanda, from The Modern Nest Blog

Take Care of yourself (and baby) – MEDICALLY:

(OK first I need to butt in here and say I used this magic cream to speed healing + prevent infection postpartum. It was awesome. It doesn’t help with the pain, but it DEFINITELY helped with the itching… just FYI. On with the tips!)

“Don’t ever be afraid to call your doctor. And, no clots bigger than a golf ball.” (This really can’t be stressed enough!) – Hilary, from Pulling Curls, who just happens to be a Labor + Delivery Nurse, and who also happens to have an awesome online prenatal class for all the first time Momma’s out there.

Make sure to steal extra mesh undies & as many of those humungo pads as you can before leaving the hospital. Also, invest in those fancy adult diapers to carry you through once your run out or for days that you expect to be a bit more active. *Life Saver*!” – Alea, from Frugal Nesting    (The hostpital I delivered at watched their supplies like a hawk, and I couldn’t sneak any extras. I found them here for cheap, and they are a LIFESAVER.) 

“Sleep whenever you can. Make sure you drink tons of water and ask (and accept) help when you need it.” – Laurie, from Learning 2 Bloom

“Especially if you’re a first-time mom and have NO idea what you’re doing, hire a midwife who does house calls. Twice a week at the beginning, then once a week for the next 6 to 8 weeks. She will look out for you AND your baby. Mine helped me take care of c-section wound and even took out the staples for me so I didn’t have to leave the house to see a doctor. She was invaluable in helping me naturally heal my kidney infection which resulted from the catheter. That way I didn’t have to take antibiotics and could continue to try to breastfeed my twins (which she helped me with as well.) She cleaned the umbilical cord area once it fell off; also monitored if my babies were gaining enough weight. She even taped my back and knees for me because the infection had settled in there and it was so painful I could hardly walk (much less carry my babies upstairs.) She also taught me some yoga poses specifically for those painful areas. She also listened to me about typical concerns new mothers have. I love her to the moon and back for making that time in my life so worry-free!” – Rebecca, from Mother’s Little Helpers

Get your self a postpartum healing herb bath mix. It makes you feel sooo much better. Helps heal wounds, achy muscles, and helps calm anxiety. They have a bunch for sale on etsy, a few on amazon or you could make your own.” – Stormy, from The Happy Herbal Home

Eat well and be careful what sort of activity you jump into doing when it’s time to get moving again

Once you’ve gotten the ok at your 6 week check up, it can be tempting to start doing all kinds of sit ups – I know it’s frustrating when your clothes don’t fit and your body looks SO different than it did a year ago… but go slow with your workouts, and eat well – especially if you’re nursing – don’t cut a bunch of calories trying to get into your pre-baby clothes!

If you’re hanging on to baby weight or if you feel like your tummy won’t ever shrink back down, you probably need to heal your core muscles – holding a baby for 9 months straight is HARD work. The Postpartum Cure is a SUPER AFFORDABLE eating and workout plan for getting rid of the mommy tummy WITHOUT causing further damage.

It includes meal plans, grocery lists, explanations of how to heal and strengthen the pelvic floor, and best of all, it will help you get your body back! Check out The Postpartum Cure here.

Take Care of yourself – MENTALLY:

If you feel off after baby comes, don’t write it off as the baby blues if you feel like it’s more… even if the little quiz they give you at the postpartum check ups says you’re in the normal range. Be your own advocate.” – Jamie, from Simple Living Mommy

I am not trying to be a downer, but keep your eyes open for the signs of postpartum depression. If the “baby blues”, the hormonal fluctuations that throw you into teary ups and downs last more than a few weeks, contact your OB right away. Because a friends share this with me, I received treatment immediately and made a (in hindsight) quick recovery.” – Brandice, from Grace Filled Plate

“Don’t forget to take some time for yourself and keep up with your hobbies and goals. I struggled with feeling like I was “just” a mom and not a person with their own goals and interest for a while and I think it is important to remember that you are much more than “just” a mom.” – Cassie from Life on Waller

It’s ok to say NO to visitors, even family members and close friends! Especially if you’re an introvert or someone who feels pressure to entertain visitors, give yourself permission to take all the time you need before letting everyone come over to meet your new addition.” – Kate, from  High Low Baby

Allow yourself to talk to someone about how hard it is, and about the sweet simple joys. Being able to fully communicate your feelings with someone you trust will help so much!” – Myra, from A Heart Full of Joy

Related: Overcome Postpartum Depression – tips from 19 moms who’ve been there

Cut Yourself Some Slack:

 “Give yourself a baby gift: grace. I tend to set expectations for my house, my schedule, my post-baby size. A new baby changes all of that! For a season. So give yourself grace and lots of margin until things get back into a rhythm.” – Lisa, from Lisa Appelo

Don’t forget to take care of you! That sweet baby needs you healthy first and foremost. And don’t worry about losing the weight right away, it took almost a year to gain it, give your body time to lose it too.” – Jamie, Living Life As A Wife

Be unbelievably self forgiving.” – Linda

“Give yourself an unbelievable amount of grace. Focus on you and baby; everything else will still be there in a couple of weeks, but the newborn time is fleeting.” – Lisa, from Graceful Abandon

If it’s not your first baby, make sure your husband is prepared to watch baby alone for a couple of days because the cramps afterwards require all of your rest and relaxation.” – Jamie, from Simple Living Mommy

REST, REST, REST! (This is a good time for baby snuggles!)

Take the time to heal your body and in doing so, enjoy your baby. I am a go, go, go person. So resting and relaxing does not come naturally to me. In fact, even the hospital makes me antsy! Most moms in our culture are not accustomed to resting and taking the time to heal after having a baby. You MUST rest! Your body needs proper time to rest in order to heal. It’s essential for you to take the time. And…in doing so, you will have the added benefit of enjoying your baby. Spend the time now to snuggle your sweet, soft, squishy baby while he’s willing to sit still on you. It won’t be long, and he’s be running around. Babies grow fast!” – Amber, from All Natural Joy (ummm, she has 7 kids, girls. LISTEN to this lady!) 

Set up a cozy place to rest and feed your baby. This could include a comfy chair, pillows, nourishing snacks and drinks within reach, favorite books, a bouncer seat or place to put baby down nearby if needed, and (if you are breastfeeding) a nursing stool. This can make it easier to rest and recover the first couple weeks when your baby needs you so often.” – Beth, from Natural Mama Cafe

Let your family and friends do everything for you. They can do laundry, meals and house cleaning. Right now is your time to hold your baby and learn who he/she is and how this whole Mommy thing works. If breastfeeding isn’t working, get help right away. Ohh, and get Dermoplast for those stitches. It’s Amazing!!!” – Treasure, from Treasured Mom

“The days are long, but the years are short… so use this time to literally do nothing, but snuggle, cuddle, kiss, and take care of the baby and yourself. The house and chores can wait.” – Lisa, from Dreams and Caffeine 

Sleep, Sleep, and more sleep. If you have company over and the baby goes to sleep kick them out and go to sleep. There is nothing worse than watching your baby sleep while trying to entertain someone when you are tired and sore. Don’t be afraid to stand up for your needs and tell family and friends no. At the same time, say yes to all of the help they want to provide. Let go of your pride and accept help on your terms.” Amy, from Daily Successful Living

Listen to the practical advice from Mom’s who’ve been there before – advice like:

Let sleeping babies lie and sleep when the baby sleeps, if you’re exhausted.” – Sandra, from Plum Prarie Ranch 

Let your spouse/partner have some one on one time with the baby, especially if you’re breastfeeding because they’ll feel like they don’t get to bond in the same way.” – Amber, from Amber I Am

Don’t give up on breastfeeding too early! It gets easier!” – Sheri, from Breastfeeding Magazine

YES!!! I have to yes this, because I REALLY struggled with breastfeeding for the first 2 months. Speaking of, you can use the code mommyonpurpose50 to grab a FREE breastfeeding pillow from www.nursingpillow.com!)

Related: 19 Awesome Breastfeeding Tips & Hacks for New Moms
Related: 9 Common Breastfeeding Struggles + How to Fix Them

Get a sound machine! I thought it was silly at first but our baby started sleeping through the night the first time we used our sound machine. It was a life saver!” – Mattie, from Growing the Givens

Do not entertain the little one at night! Wake up, change the baby, feed the baby, then everyone back to bed. If they insist on staying up, keep the lights low and just cuddle- no play and interacting. I think I bored my kids into a better sleep routine within a week doing this.”- Deja, from Dejavu Organics

Babywear! Using a carrier helps you keep your baby close and bond, while still having your hands free. This is also super helpful when you have another child and you can’t be sitting with your new baby all day!” – Christina, from Raising Biracial Babies

“Especially if you have other children, babywearing will save your sanity. I had three under five and very little help. I would have lost my mind if it weren’t good a good baby carrier. Also remember that it goes by so quickly. It’s so so difficult at first, but it DOES get easier!” – Amy, from Amy Fillinger

“If you want to breastfeed and are having trouble, go see that lactation specialist! They are boob queens! They know everything and can help!” – Nicole, from Maybe I’m Amazed

Never ever leave the house without an extra outfit (or 20) and keep a secret stash of diapers and wipes in your car. You’ll be happy you did. And join a mommy group with like minded moms, especially if you are the first of your friends to have kids. It works wonders to have friends who understand when you’re running late due to a blowout or poorly timed nap.” – Jamie, from Simple Living Mommy

But, don’t forget to trust your Momma Instincts:

People and books will tell you what they think is best. Take it in, but then trust your intuition. You got this mama!” – Angela, from Setting My Intention

Don’t forget to listen to your own instincts. You’ll get advice coming in from every direction, but you will know your baby best so listen to your gut!” – Erin, from The Caffeinated Mom Club

Remember, postpartum is just a CRAZY time.

It WILL get easier. You WILL start to feel human again. My friend Jamie says “No one tells you what it’s REALLY like to have a baby. When you feel overwhelmed remember it DOES get better and you’ll soon feel like this is the best job you’ve ever had.

Just do your sitz baths, love on your itty bitty and – seriously – don’t worry about the dust.

Have you done the postpartum thing? Leave your best postpartum advice in the comments to help out other moms to be who stop by  🙂

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19 thoughts on “The BEST Postpartum Advice, from moms who’ve been there (and done that)”

  1. Yay!! Love it! One of my girlfriends is expecting (just had her hospital tour today)! I can’t wait to share this with her!

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    • YES! Please do share Alea, this is a wealth of great info from wise ladies 🙂

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  2. There is such a wealth of knowledge among moms. This is exactly why we need to support each other and parent in a community of friends. Thanks for sharing all these tips. I wish this was here when I was having my babies.

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    • I hope it’s really helpful to lots of women – like, PAPER PLATES! I am so using that tip myself next time!

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  3. This post is really great! I wish I would have read this before having my first baby! I was very naive in thinking I would go back to my pre-baby self in every way after having her. This would have been a great resource to have! I have had three babies now, and I feel like each postpartum has gotten easier and easier. I’ve learned to not stress the small stuff as much, and just be grateful for all of my blessings to have a precious little one.

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    • Thanks Miranda! I’m glad to hear they get easier each time LOL and I think not stressing the small stuff is HUGE! Thank you for that 🙂

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  4. Great compilation! I wish I had read something like this before I had my little one. The first weeks were horrible!! Yes, shocked is the right term. The little girl was premature, so small and skinny, but they sent us home with her anyway. She was crying all the time. The midwife saved our lives! I really don’t know what would have happened without her.

    Also, a friend with a toddler came over, saw my condition, gave me a gentle hug and said, “Don’t worry. The love is there and it will grow. It will all be fine. Have a little patience and trust.” She was so right! Now, the little one is 3 and I couldn’t love her and my mommy life more!

    Hang in there, mommies! You got this. Give yourself grace and have a little patience.

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    • Such a great thing to be reminded of – Give yourself grace and have a little patience. Wise words!!

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  5. This is a great list! And I think you’re right, Carly, there isn’t enough postpartum advice out there. Or at least I wasn’t in touch with it when I first started having kids!
    I think my biggest postpartum shock was coming home from the hospital and realizing that there was a brand new set of negative thoughts and emotions I was exposed to that I’d never previously experienced. I thought something was seriously wrong with me, and to be honest, I didn’t want to share what I was dealing with internally with anyone. I didn’t want people judging me or not being understanding.
    What I’ve realized since then is that you absolutely need to be firm with what you allow into your mind as a mom. The Bible outlines for us in Philippians 4:8 what we are supposed to allow our minds to think on. And after I had a very rough postpartum with my second daughter, I realized the importance of what I shouldn’t allow in my mind and what I should focus on.

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    • I LOVE that verse and it really does do so much to actively work to control the way we thing – what amazing advice, thank you for sharing! I found that I had to work REALLY hard in that regards with worry about the baby. Otherwise I would have let myself go crazy!

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  6. From a mom who suffered with severe postpartum anxiety and felt like I was run over by a train – my heart aches for all of the suffering moms who don’t get help soon enough. Yes postpartum is hard. It’s hard for every single mom. But if you feel like dying (like I did!) GET HELP! It’s not just you! I have one doozy of a story – and if anyone is questioning if their postpartum is “normal” or not – it is OK to ask and GET HELP!

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  7. This is such an amazing read. Thank you so much for sharing. Taking advice from community nurses is so different from moms who have actually been in the same situations. I have actually just added postpartum services to my company in the hope for moms to feel more supported without feeling they might be judged.
    I suffered from postpartum depression and feeling like I was completely alone. My goal is to have moms feel like they have someone to call on for help. Such as light housekeeping, meal prep, feeding support, sleep support and just having someone to talk to.

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    • Riannon, thanks for the feedback – I’m glad you enjoyed it! And congrats on adding those services – it’s definitely something a lot of new moms can use!

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  8. I really wish I would have given myself more grace with my first. I felt a lot of pressure to make things look perfect and like I knew what I was doing (what?! Who of us really does?!) My second time around I determined to be more true to myself, enjoy the experience, and let it be messy. I cut out some of the influences that made me feel like I wasn’t being or doing enough and that was SO freeing!

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    • Oh I DEFINITELY agree Chelsea!! I’m glad you were able to do that!

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  9. Get as much cuddle time in with your partner as possible, whether it’s with the new baby or just the two of you it’ll help keep you grounded during a time that’s so overwhelming.

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