I am a thrift store shopper – and I struggled with a clothes clutter problem
I love that I can have LOTS of NICE clothes for a fraction of what they would have cost new. I love that I don’t have to be limited to the 2 pairs of jeans per year I would probably buy if I couldn’t get them from thrift shops.
I love that I can replace things when I get tired of them, rather than when they get worn.
I don’t do that.
I just buy more things and add to the pile.
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I’ve been a clothing hoarder, but it’s time to talk about how to get rid of clothes clutter.
This is hard for me to admit (the clothing hoarder part). Because I am a big advocate of gettin’ rid of stuff you’re not using. I talk about it alot.
Too much tupperware? Not me.
Books I haven’t read in ten years? Nope.
Useless shelves full of knick-knacks? Just one (and those are carefully selected knick-knacks).
It’s easy to justify my bursting closet, because I live in a place with temperatures that zoom wildly up and down from season to season and I NEED clothes for all climates. Also because I am only a few pounds too heavy for THOSE jeans, and because I MIGHT go work in an office again and wear this stuff then. And some things I have sentimental attachment too, and it’s ok to just keep a FEW of those things… and…. reason, reason, reason.
I can justify my clothing hoarding all day long – and some of the reasons are even valid.
That does not change the fact that clothing is my number one clutter issue, and that sometimes it feels like the cloths are taking over my house.
They’re in the bathroom, they’re in the laundry room.
And of course, my room. There’s even clothes in my car.
IT’s way way worse now that I have kids too – because now there are MORE people I can hoard clothing for!
My husband has pointed out that if I just put the clothes away, they wouldn’t be all over the place. (He is, in fact, right.) But the ROOT of the problem is that I can’t put the clothes away. I have so many clothes that there isn’t room for them all to be put away at once. (Not to mention I can set them down anywhere and not think about them again for weeks. Because I can wear other clothes. I have enough underwear that if I don’t do laundry for one month, I will only just then run out.)
So I need to tackle the clothing clutter. I need to seriously pare down. (And make room in the closet for putting clothes away.)
SO, now that I’ve laid that all out there, I have one other confession to make.
I know what it’ll take to make the clothing clutter problem go away, and I just haven’t done it.
Why? Because I don’t want to, because it’s hard for me. (Brutal honesty is the straightest path to decluttering your clothes – or anything else!)
I watch these shows on TV and I feel genuinely bad for the “hoarders” because I understand what seems like almost physical paralysis when it comes to the ability to clean up and get rid of things.
I have been there – I have stood in the middle of a fully-piled-with-crap room, and felt absolutely overwhelmed, to the point of complete and utter despair. Tears were the only option.
But I am a very different person now – I even consider myself strong. As a strong person, I recognize that that cause of my clothing clutter problem is me and my lack of action.
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SO this clothes clutter thing ends now, I am taking action. I am getting my clothing clutter under control.
Here’s a plan that I KNOW works to de-clutter clothing, because it worked for all the other areas of my life. And I know exactly where I’ve gone wrong with it when it comes to clothes. (I’ll show you how to not make the same mistakes I’ve made that have got me right back to clothes cluttered in no time.)
How to de-clutter your closet in 10 steps:
1) Wash all the dirty laundry in the house. Leave no t-shirt crumpled in the bottom of the basket.
2) Pile each and every last article of (now clean) clothing that you own on the bed. (I’m tempted to tell you to do this naked – so all your clothes are included – but that’s not really necessary. Just make sure you want to keep the outfit you’re wearing.) Next to the pile put a big garbage bag to place items for donating. (No, you can’t just make a separate ‘donate’ pile. You want to not be able to see the clothes after you make your decision to donate. Use the bag, or you will second guess yourself on things as time goes on.)
3) You can easily spot the things you wear ALL THE TIME / REGULARLY. Put these things away. Back into the closet or the drawer. No need to get rid of something you are using often!
4) Things that are worn or have seen better days can be relegated to the trash or maybe the rag drawer. But cut them up – these things have sneaked back out into my closet before! (Seriously.)
5) If there is anything in the pile that you obviously won’t wear and have no problem taking out and donating, that goes next.
6) Remove the sentimental but useless items from the pile. (If you have anything you’re hanging onto that you can flat out acknowledge that you will never wear again, but are keeping because it’s special, that’s what we’re talking about. If you have a very few sentimental items – maybe your wedding dress and a t-shirt you got at your first concert – it’s fine to keep those. If you have more than 5-10 sentimental items, you probably need to address an emotional attachment to things. This is a whole ‘nother issue, but for now, set those sentimental items aside. No, not back in the closet. Aside.)
7) Sort what’s left (things you don’t use regularly – for whatever reason – but aren’t emotionally attached to) into appropriate “specific event categories” – so I’d make a pile for “dressy”, for “beach holiday” and one pile for “everyday stuff I just don’t wear”. (Because I know me, and I know that’s what will be left when I finish with “stuff I wear all the time / stuff I can get rid of / stuff I have sentimental feelings about”. You might have other categories, like “camping clothes” or “gym clothes”.)
8) Pare down each “specific event” category based on if you would wear an item today. So, from the dressy pile, if I was going to a wedding today, what would I choose to wear? Most people only need a few dressy outfits / one week of beach holiday outfits etc, in their closets. Get rid of anything that you wouldn’t be excited to wear. Put the things you are keeping back in the closet, and the rest in the donation box.
9) At this point, all that should be left is “everyday stuff you just don’t wear”. THIS IS WHERE I HAVE GONE WRONG IN THE PAST: I look at this stuff, and I assume I’ll wear it in the future, and I put 80% of it back in my closet. Even though some of it I have owned for YEARS and worn three times, I still put it back in the closet. Just DON’T. Unless you have a rock solid reason to keep this stuff (and I can’t even come up with one as an example), get rid of all of it. Hanging on to stuff I hardly wear is what is causing the bulk of my clothing clutter issues. Following is a partial list of reasons that are NOT GOOD ENOUGH to put this stuff back in your closet. If you are keeping things for any of these reasons, just don’t.
- It was really expensive. (Then sell it!)
- I’m 5 lbs too heavy and I’ll fit it again.
- I use to wear it all the time and I’ll probably wear it again soon. (Not. The. Case.)
- I paid for it and I should wear it.
- I’m tired of it, but it’s perfectly useful.
- It’s gorgeous (but when I put it on I look a little…7 months pregnant).
- I love it (but don’t have the confidence to leave the house in it… so I don’t).
- It was a gift and the person who gifted it will be hurt if I get rid of it.
- I might really miss it. (Because if I haven’t worn something in 8 months, this makes sense – right?)
(I don’t know about you, but my closet is significantly emptier after doing step #9).
BUT if the bulk of your clothing clutter problems are sentimental items, you still need to deal with that. If there’s lots of room in the closet and it’s 3 or 4 things, I think it’s fine to keep them. If you have 27 things you are sentimental about, you need to learn to let go. Think about taking photos of the clothes. I won’t go into all the ways I deal with emotional clutter here, but you can read my process for getting rid of this stuff here: How I conquer clutter when it’s emotionally difficult. Don’t put these sentimental but useless things back in your closet. Store that wedding dress somewhere else!
10) GET RID OF EVERYTHING THAT’S GOING NOW. This is the single most important step. If you keep that donation bag around, the clothes will creep back out of it. I don’t know how, but it’s happened to me over and over. Drive that bag right down to the charity shop.
Now – ORGANIZE your closet, girl!
Just cleaning out the closet isn’t good enough.
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Finally, Be diligent about NOT bringing clothes clutter back into your home.
Whenever you are tempted to purchase something, remind yourself how overwhelming it feels to be buried in clothes clutter.
Annnnd … now I’ll work on making sure the clothes get put away after they’re cleaned. And when I take them off. But this won’t be as hard as it was before, because I actually have a place to put them 🙂
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24 thoughts on “Tackling Clothing Clutter: Confessions of a Clothes Hoarder”
Girl you speak to my soul!! Haha! I am a thrift store shopper too and for a while we totally had clothes coming out of our ears!! There was clothes everywhere. So I did what you said and started to scale back and now I feel much better! It’s amazing the difference I feel when I don’t have clothes falling out of the closet when I open the door <3
Great article, and I really need #9! I have recently opened an online boutique and my problem has gotten so much worse:(. I want to keep one of everything! One thing that has helped me is …. hangers. Sounds weird but when I run out of hangers after a shopping spree or doing laundry, I must take out that many articles of clothing to get rid of before putting new/clean things in. 5 new things – 5 old/not worn things must go first. Now I must watch myself from making piles here and there lol.
lol, yes the piles!! The piles are my worst habit too!
Between yesterday and today I have read a whole lot of your posts and omg I feel like we are sisters or of one brain or something! Wow!- you know what I’m thinking and how I feel!- but the difference is you have solutions- I’m definitely inspired- it will take a lot longer for me , as I’ve become chronically ill and am often incapacitated, but when I do have the energy I’m gonna try to use it wisely – thank u so so much!
HI! LOL I love that there are so many of us who totally GET this clutter thing. And hey – good news – if we are sisters and of one brain, I bet YOU can figure out the solutions too 😉 IT’s so hard… I still struggle, believe me, I don’t have all the solutions. Just one thing and one day at a time is the way to tackle it tho… (and only when you can, rest is important when your body needs it <3)
Let me start with 3a.m. right now. This is how overwhelmed ..basically sick and tired of walking in my room(s) and seeing clothes. I’ve bought really nice clothes racks. That worked for a while. Now it’s a catch all in the garage. The good news is. I got rid of the clothes that was hanging on it/them. I recently did the pile on top of a bed. Even before reading this article. So appearently i have some good ideas lol. Problem there is not all the clothes made it there. And i STILL HAVE CLOTHES ON THE BED. Clothes I forget is there. SMH Also I did the bagging of donations immediately. That was empowering.. huh.. Problem? Yes. I let the bags sit in the entrance for a couple days. And darn it! One of those bags sure found it’s way back into the piles. Shortly after I put the bags in my vehicle.
Back to my original cause for replying Sms is I can 100% relate. I too have a chronic rare illness ((Ankylosing). One without a cure. Debilitating at times for sure. The pain is excruciating. But I have no choice than to deal with it. So good days far and few but that’s when I try and catch up on the already piles plus with what I added from my bad days. Frustration overwhelmed and feels like im walking in circles without accomplishing anything. Oh did i mention. I have front and back yard to maintain as well. All by my lonesome so yea I feel like superwoman when I look at all I’m doing. But I wish I was more like Bewitch(ed) or Jeannie.
Thank you Carly the Mommy. Today I am piling All clean clothes on that bed. And I really am going to get rid of more. Though I know I won’t get it all done today. I have to manage my time between projects resting the body and what ever else may pop up thru the day unexpectedly. This was therapeutic hallelujah!,
This article is just on time as I’ve been aggregating so much clothes recently. I still find it difficult to go through the piles and keep postponing the chore into the future. I remember when I had just a few items and was content with what I had.
I WISH I could get back to having just a few items and being content. That sounds like perfection!
i try to do this every time and it fails! i not only have old clothing i never wear i have clothes that my kids have grown out of and will never wear again way too many sheets socks that i buy every two weeks or so cuz i can’t never find a pair… i’m a mess…
JeanY, I have put all socks in a basket and lay one out if I don’t pull out a match I lay another out and ….so on. Then it becomes a memory game while watching TV.Hope this helps.
I just dud a switch of towels and sheets cabinets. Now it doesn’t look like I have too many sheets. Lol they fit much better in the hall closet instead of the hall cabinets. And towels. Well they took up all 4 cabinets.
Missing socks.. I managed to get all 3 boys to pair up the socks right when they take them off. Phew! So much better. Mmm well the middle one still has to wear mismatched only sometimes. Lol he doesn’t seem to mind. He says it doesn’t matter no one is going to see them anyway. Truthfully I don’t think he would care if anyone did. That’s my Jack.
I have 15 big brown bags waiting for the Vets to pick up Friday. My mantra is if 1 comes in, 1 goes out. Also when decluttering my closet, I ask myself, would I buy this again. I am still working on my clothing clutter but these 2 things have helped me a great deal
Love this – would I buy this again. Will try it today as I clear my closet. Thank you!
Thanks for finally talking about >Tackling Clothing Clutter:
Confessions of a Clothes Hoarder – Mommy on Purpose <Loved it!
Ive been there too. I learned if you buy 1 item get rid of one item if you buy 2 something. I do it right away. Because if i dont it ends up going back in the closet. It helps me. Also i have bins for each seasons. Befor i buy new i go through. And see what i cant fit in, out of style ect. Then i go shopping😀
I like this – it sounds like a great strategy!
I did that …once maybe twice. Thanks for the reminder. Also turn all your hangers with clothes on them the opposite way. You’ll see which ones always get used because u put those clothes to hang right way in. The others. Well after a month or two if the hanger s are still facing the opposite direction. Get rid of those pieces of clothes.
I have been a hoarderer! For so long I thought I could feel bugs crawling!!! I have been clearing out my room for about 3-4 weeks sorting out dishware,pot ware,winter wear to seasonal wear then putting it into storage!! (is this a betterment I’m asking?)
This Post made me CRY. Number 9 hits every hot button, all of the examples. I love getting deals. I bought lots of things for work and winter when I was 30 lbs heavier. At this point I’m 2 sizes smaller and I have brand new beautiful “deals” that are baggy and need to be tailored. That will cost the difference on the deal and retail. I am working on my next 30 lb goal – my plan is a total of 85 lbs – and I have thought I’d keep everything until I hit my goal and get it all tailored. Logically, I understand that tailoring dozens of items to be 6-8 sizes smaller is absurd. Just writing this is making me see I need to let them go, wear what I can, and replace items in the correct size when it’s time. I’m going to sell them, but that thought overwhelms me. Any recommendations on best place to sell plus size new items?
Try FB marketplace!!!
I’m happy to read your post because this is my husband to a T. It bothers me that our shared living space is taken over by his belongings (clothes, electronics, gadgets, equipment, “toys”, miscellaneous items that i have no idea why he buys). It is our only major fight in our relationship. Its unfair because I am a mess free, organized person and I constantly feel stressed by his need for things and lack of space to put them away. I feel frustrated and embarrassed by the state of our house and don’t even invite people over because of it. I will show your post to him and hope it helps.