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I don’t know how I feel about blogging today.
I know I want to do it, I know I want to be successful at it. But I don’t know if I’m really cut out for it. There’s this aspect of putting yourself out there to be judged by every human in the world who has a pulse (and an internet connection) that is absolutely, completely and utterly, terrifying.
I have a freaking awesome group of bloggy friends, and last night our discussion revolved mostly around a comment left on one of Jamie’s (from Simple Living Mommy) posts. A BULLET JOURNAL POST. I just can’t quite get over it.
Blogging sometimes makes me do things I thought I would never do. I have always thought of “open letters” as sort of lame…
But this woman, who claims to have invented pooping, has made me feel a little soap-boxy.
There is a time to express your opinion. There is a time to make a stand. When you see injustice or feel really deeply about something, you SHOULD say it.
If what you feel really deeply about is bullet journals, maybe there is also a time to re-asses your priorities.
To the woman who invented pooping (& to all the other internet trolls out there):
A couple days ago, you left a comment on a blog post you read. (Here’s a screenshot of it, to jog your memory). It probably took you all of 15 seconds (or less, considering how well thought out it was) and it probably didn’t cross your mind again.
It might surprise you that your comment is generating this sort of response. (Well, maybe it won’t – you’re obviously very important.)
I do realize the comment is pretty benign. But consider it “the straw that broke the camel’s back”… (I’ll admit that this was a weak camel, I have been VERY blessed, and not too horribly attacked online. But I live in constant fear of you, the internet troll, and it irks me to no end that you took the time write this. To a woman who doesn’t deserve it, about a bullet journal post.)
First of all, I’d like to tell you that this isn’t the letter I originally wrote. The first letter was exactly what I was thinking. It was nasty, it was funny (- I mean comm’on, I had the chance to use the expression “queen of sh!t”). But I couldn’t click publish on the first letter…Because it’s not who I am and not what I stand for.
Even though I have those nasty thoughts, I have the ability to recognize that they are nasty, and to not share them. It’s a choice I can make, because I don’t want that impression of me online (or anywhere) for the world to see. Plus I believe it’s actually wrong for me to say some of the things I’m thinking about you. But I will say this: even though I am choosing not to be nasty, I can still be honest.
So Turd Lady, lemme level with you.
Do you not know that you’re mean?
It’s a post on BULLET JOURNALING. (I know, I keep saying it, but I can hardly believe it.) How can you make a bullet journal into a controversial or negative thing? How?
Maybe it’s a joke? You found the most innocent, unoffensive post ever written and you just wanted to get it out there that we owe you the credit for turds?
You’re a weird lady. SMH cause you actually took the time to write this. (Totally had to ask what SMH meant. For anyone else who doesn’t know – it’s “shaking my head”.) Yes, Turd Lady, you were shaking your head. About the bullet journal post.
All sarcasm aside, what’s wrong with you? And what’s wrong all the other people who troll the internet, writing nasty little notes to people who are just a) trying to make a living, b) enriching other people’s lives by sharing theirs, c) not hurting anyone at all with their writing?
If you don’t like the post that’s fine… you’re totally entitled to hate the idea. Maybe you even close the browser. But what’d the author of this post ever do to you, that you felt the need to cut her down? Over something SO simple?
You’re a mean girl, and that was a small, sad, thing to do. So please, go away. And take your turds with you.
To all the other internet trolls out there, why are YOU like that? Are you so jaded that you don’t believe the world could actually be a nicer place if you were… nicer? Or
are you just too stupid to realize do you genuinely not believe that you are part of the problem?
I’m not talking about rainbows and sparkles and fake compliments. Go ahead and take a stand when it’s something that matters. Goodness knows, my personal Facebook page isn’t always the most popular place.
But when it’s something that really doesn’t matter? If you just sit down and shut up, the world will be a nicer place.
Why don’t you want that?
(And to anyone out there thinking about blogging, (or already blogging and having to press delete on comments like this from crummy people all over the world), don’t let these people get you down. Just be warned that they are out there, and be ready to ignore them.)
That’s about it Turd Lady, and thanks for listening.
17 thoughts on “To the Woman Who Invented Pooping (& All Other Internet Trolls)”
Well put and I love the title! Many should be intrigued by it. If only people would be nice!
Hey Julie 🙂 Thanks!! I was actually really nervous about this post – especially the title lol- so I appreciate that alot.
I love this post! I started a blog about 5 months ago, and haven’t had any haters yet. But I’ve pinned this and am sure that when I do, I’ll be referring back to it. My favorite line was, “All sarcasm aside, what’s wrong with you?” I belly laughed! Thank you, and have a great day!
Hi Susan! Thanks for reading 🙂 And congrats on starting the blog – such an exciting adventure!! I’ve been pretty lucky as far as haters go too, but it’s good to know they’re out there. We can’t let them stop us from doing our thing – right?
I’m so glad you wrote this! It’s so sad that people feel the need to be so mean online. I really don’t get it. I don’t understand why people want to hurt others. I also don’t know how they have time for this. I have more than enough on my plate just worrying about my self and my kids.
Hi Laurie! I totally agree – would they say this stuff to a person’s face? It’s like some people have nothing better to do, which is SO sad…
Well put. Being honest enough to admit the first draft of this post was nasty (cause, we ALL can be, if no where else than in our minds), but then making the point that ‘common decency’/’good sense’/and ‘courteous social decency’ is a CHOICE that you made. Leading by example can be our only weapon at times. My rule is, if I would not say this exact thing to the person FACE TO FACE, than…DON’T SAY IT AT ALL! Hang in there peeps, don’t let the ‘nasties’ get you too far down 🙂 #smallvictoriessundaylinkup
HI Kristine! Thanks for reading 🙂 IF we all had that face to face rule, the internet would be much better off! I know this post won’t get me heaps of pageviews but I do hope that maybe one or two of the nasties out there will read it and reconsider, haha!
I will be forever grateful that you posted on my blog – because it caused me to click the link to your blog, which let me to this post. Now, I’m off to share it!
O!! Thank you Kelly!! I will be forever grateful that you shared this post – it’s not the kind that I can get a lot of traction with on pinterest lol have a wonderful Sunday!! ( I plan to spend mine looking for FB groups in which to sneakily promote myself be being useful 😉 )
Hello!!! I just find your blog and i love it..xoxo from mexico…
HI Mabeel!! Thank you so much for letting me know and thank you for reading – I wish I WAS IN MEXICO TOO!!!
I love this post. I continue to wonder why some people love to tear others down? There are enough of those types of people. That’s an easy thing to do. Building up people, now that’s something you can be proud of and why on earth would you not do it? Every blog post that a blogger creates has a little bit of his or her soul in it – even if the topic is bullet journals. Thanks for such a frank post about it. It took bravery on your part! 🙂
Thanks Kelly! You’re so right, every post is an investment of yourself. WE all need to remember to be uplifting to one another 🙂
Oh gosh! I feel so bad for the bullet journal blogger! Poor thing.
Don’t live in fear of the trolls. I love the expression, “if you make everyone happy, you aren’t doing it right”. You can’t make everyone like what you do. And that is a good thing!
Keep doing your thing. You’ll probably encounter people who don’t like it, but that is okay! Each to their own, right? For the record though, I do think internet trolls should be nice anyway!
lol I do think they should be nice too! But you are so right, you can’t please everyone. WE should all remember that. (And Jamie handled it really well! I intend to take a page out of her book when I get the nasties stopping by 🙂 )